In my Carnegie training I have learned the nine keys to human relations. I am now trying to implement them in my personal life to improve those relations. The interaction that I experience through LDS blogging is a major reason why I stick around. I hope that if I can improve my end of these relationships things will be even better. I don’t express this as an expert, nor do I do this to scold anyone. Perhaps there are things on my list here that can help others as well. So here I go, Carnegie human relations keys applied to blogging.
1. Do not criticize, condemn or complain.
If improved human relations is your goal, simply do not do these things.
2. Give sincere appreciation.
If there are blogs or bloggers that you like and enjoy, then tell them once in a while. A little appreciation can go a long way in improving human relations.
3. Arouse in them an eager want.
This has more to do with influencing people. If you want to influence someone, you need to get them to want to change. I’m not sure how this would apply directly to blogging.
4. Show genuine interest in them.
Talk about them and what they are interested in. Stay on topic. Don’t thread jack. Showing interest in what they are doing will greatly help improve your relationship with them.
6. Refer to them by name.
A person’s name is the sweetest sound in the world to that person. Address them as a person and use their name if you want to strengthen your relationship with them.
Let the other person do most of the talking, and show them that you are actually reading what they say. I notice many people will cut and past sections of comments. This can be good – as long as it is not to criticize. Showing that you have actually read the post and the comments is important.
8. Let them talk about themselves.
This is closely related to number 7. Getting to know them on a personal level is an important step.
9. Make them feel important.
I’m sure there are many on the ‘nacle that feel ignored and irrelevant. I have often felt this way. This can be a very powerful way of improving your relationships.
I am trying to make these types of changes in my personal life. I hope to be able to improve the quality of my human relations. I have sincere desires to do this. I have always tried to be a nice guy, but it was always quite general. This gives me a list of specific things I can do.
Are quality human relationships through blogging important to you?
Would life on the bloggernacle be better if more people followed these principles?
If I try to do this more will people think I am insincere and just trying to get something out of them? I hope not.