Career Change – The Offer

In the previous post, I ended with one of the top companies that I was hopeful to get a job offer from calling me back.  I felt this was a very good sign.  They had kept my resume on file, and while they did not hire me as a Sr. Project Engineer, they were interested in me as a Sr. Advanced Manufacturing Engineer.  This new opportunity seemed even better than the one I had previously applied for.

This time, the company brought our whole family down for the interview – a very  good sign.  This interview was a couple of hours long, with six people involved simultaneously.  I felt like I nailed it.  I was comfortable, confident, and just felt in control of the room.  I left feeling like it was in the bag, and that they simply ought to hire me.

A few days later I got an email saying that the position had been put on hold, and that they would keep me informed.  This seemed like another good sign.  They could have told me they were considering other candidates, but they did not.  So I waited.

A few days before Christmas I got a call, informing me that I was being offered the job.  I was very excited about this.  They were sending me a packet by Fedex that would provide all the details.  When the package came, I was a tad disappointed.  The relocation assistance was the most generous I had ever seen, and short of buying my house was about as good as I could imagine.  I was mostly disappointed in how much the employees had to pay for insurance – much more than my current employer.  When I compared the cost of living, and the cost of insurance, this new job offer would only be about $2,0000.00 more per year.  And with all the cost and risk of selling a house and changing states, I was about to do the unthinkable – turn this offer down.  The thought broke my heart.  I did the only thing I think I could – I made a counter offer.

I laid out the comparison, and my concerns.  I asked for 10K more than they offered.  They came back with 5K more, along with a 5K signing bonus, and one month salary as an additional benefit to cover expenses of moving (this was money we could use as we please, not a reimbursement).  In addition to the relocation already offered, this seemed pretty good.

I prayed about this opportunity, but did not get very far.  As soon as I began praying, I was filled with unmistakable positive feelings of blessing, gratitude, approval, etc.  I knew this was the one.  Over the next couple of days a prayed many times seeking confirmation of what I had previously felt.  I have never experienced anything like this.  Prayer-answer, prayer-answer, prayer-answer,…  My wife and I brought this to my children in the most serious family meetings we have ever had.  I told them about the offer, and what it would mean.  And I told them about my prayers, and the answers I felt that I had received.  The maturity and support from my children was touching.  I love my family with my whole heart, and I would not do this without their support.  We allowed everyone to share their feelings on the matter.  We were going to take it.

After accepting the offer I went to our ward building to do some more praying.  I decided that I would walk around the church as I prayed.  I started out simple, ‘Heavenly Father, I found another job..’.  My body was filled with intense feelings like before, but so strong that my body shook with sobs.  I knew I was going to fall, so I walked into the grass and fell on my hands and knees.  I wept as I accepted and rejoiced in this new opportunity.  After about 30 seconds I decided that my posture was a bit undignified, so I got up and started walking again.  I began to think of my wife and children, and what a support they had been through this long process and I began to weep again.

While I feel that I had been given clear answers to prayers about this – like never before, I still had my worries.  Mostly the anxiety was about selling our home in a small town in Michigan.  Prayers and blessings were given with similar positive feelings.  I still worry, but that is my nature.  Sometimes I feel that I have had enough faith to get the answers in this case, but not enough faith to be fully comforted by those answers.  I still have much to learn.

At the time of this post, I gave my two weeks notice at my current job.  I start my new job in a couple of weeks.  I know that not everything will be easy or perfect, but I do feel that I have been lead to this decision.   My hope is that I can now be in a better position to meet my family’s needs as my boys approach missions and college, and that I can make some meaningful progress during the next stage of my career.  I also hope that all of those who have been in similar or worse situation than I have been in, can find better opportunities for themselves.

19 Responses to “Career Change – The Offer”

  1. 1 comet January 29, 2012 at 8:04 am

    Very insightful and moving. Have had similar experiences, though not related to job/career like in your case. Best wishes going forward.

  2. 3 Morgan D January 29, 2012 at 12:10 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing Eric. I particularly enjoyed your description of having enough faith to get the answer but not enough to be content with them. That seems to be my life.

    I’ve enjoyed this whole series a great deal as I went through a rather harrowing job search only I did it jobless, homeless, and going through a divorce. I ended up selling cable door to door until I found enough employment in my field. (Teaching college history)

    Thanks again for the truly inspiring story.

  3. 4 Eric Nielson January 29, 2012 at 2:57 pm

    Wow Morgan. I know others have had more difficult situations than mine. I’m glad you found some value in this.

  4. 5 Stephen M (Ethesis) January 29, 2012 at 3:38 pm

    Now I know who to contact about my daughter who is looking for an internship as a manufacturing engineer.

  5. 6 Stephen M (Ethesis) January 29, 2012 at 3:38 pm


    Actually, I’m very pleased for you that this worked out as it did. Wish you the best.

  6. 7 WVS January 29, 2012 at 8:25 pm

    Thanks for sharing this Eric. Inspiring.

  7. 9 Michelle January 30, 2012 at 12:51 am

    So very happy for you. It’s also so wonderful when you can have anchors knowing that that next step is RIGHT. (All the more so because sometimes right isn’t always easy, so if hard times come, you will have those anchors to hold on to.)

  8. 10 Paul January 30, 2012 at 11:41 am

    Eric, you’ve documented a remarkable process. Thanks for sharing this with us. And congratulations on the outcome. Best wishes for your move.

  9. 12 J. Stapley January 30, 2012 at 1:59 pm

    I appreciate that you wrote this up. Thanks, Eric.

  10. 13 CS Eric January 30, 2012 at 2:53 pm

    In many ways this reminds me of my last job search. I had two offers pretty close together. One seemed ideal, it was a promotion, to a place with a lower cost of living, and close to my wife’s family. However, almost as soon as I got on my knees to pray about it, I got the strongest “NO!” I ever have received as an answer/impression to my prayer.

    The other job was a lateral move, to a place with a slightly higher cost of living, and to a city neither my wife nor I had ever even visited. And yet when I prayed about this one, I got the strongest “YES!” I have received to any prayer, other than maybe over my decision to marry.

    Nearly six years later, I’m still not exactly sure why I’m here, but I still trust those two answers.

  11. 14 Eric Nielson January 30, 2012 at 3:21 pm

    Thanks J.

    CS Eric – That was perhaps the best thing about this so far – learning about getting answers to prayers. I think there is something to the actual either/or circumstance that leads to answers.

  12. 15 Mogget January 31, 2012 at 3:56 pm

    Good post. Glad I stopped by, as usual!

    Good luck,


  13. 17 don leach February 4, 2012 at 10:47 pm

    Congratulations, It’s nice to hear about the support your family has given you. I know it can be hard to come to such a decision (I’m wrestling with one that would have us move to my wife’s native country of Peru if I can find a way to be free of debt before we would be able to go) but it clearly looks like the right thing for you to do. Amazingly even when we are given an answer we still want to make sure it’s correct and we aren’t just fooling ourselves, just in case. Good luck on your move which will be happening very soon.

  14. 19 Sean Peterson February 11, 2012 at 4:23 pm

    A beautiful account Eric. I never doubted you had it in you.

    Clearly, the Lord has His own timetable. If you are like me, you will have many more lessons waiting for you in your new life. Enjoy them!

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